What I'm trying to say is life is about taking risk and chances and you never know until you try.
Monthly adventures are back now that the studio is up and running.
This month has been a very special adventure with Emily, Matt and myself climbing Mt Coolum to remember and mark Paul's 50th Birthday.
This was one of Paul's favourite hikes that he liked to do with the kids and I when we went to Mt Coolum to visit his mum and dad. Very special memories of family fun!
Thinking about this day has brought up so many thoughts of a very special man who has changed my life forever. We met when we were kids, we grew up together, we had and raised our family together. Every birthday, every milestone we shared, celebrated and made each other feel loved and so very special. Spending this day without him has not been easy, but spending it with my family has meant much to me. Even catching up for lunch with Paul's parents who also share an unconditional enduring love for him.
If you have love in your life - please make sure that you take the time to tell them, spend time with them and to make the memories. It is a gift to find love but worst is to take it for granted and to let it slip away.
If you haven't found love but there is someone out there that you care about, who turns your head when they walk in the door, whose smile makes your heart skip a beat, or who can make you laugh till your belly hurts. Then reach out and ask them for a coffee or a catch up - maybe even tell them - you never know they might just feel the same way about you.
What I'm trying to say is life is about taking risk and chances and you never know until you try.
I am so glad that I took that chance with Paul and I would never have changed it for the world - as love is an incredible experience.
All you need is love - love is all you need.
Happy 50th Birthday Mr Paulie Myatt
As time moved on and as my view of the fitness industry started to mature into a more holistic approach to fitness
Last night I was sitting down to think about what I wanted to say today. There were so many things that rang through my mind, I didn’t know where to start.
So firstly, I thought maybe I should break down what Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-being means to me.
Something that is so incredibly important to me is being thankful and showing gratitude. You see I look at every one here today and I think how grateful I am to have had so many wonderful people in my life, especially the last four and a half years since Paul and Imogen died. Many of you here today have followed my journey and have been an important part of my healing – you have shown support, love, kindness, generosity of spirit to me time and time again. But most of all you have believed in me and believed in my ability to rebuild my life after such a life changing moment. You have given me the strength and the courage to take those steps forward to create a new life of happiness and to find my identity as Shelley Myatt and not Paul and Shelley Myatt.
Part of this has been your support for me to follow my passion to start Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-being and here you are today once again showing me your support and belief in me by sharing this special moment with me.
I would especially like to thank my children who are my sunshine and reason to keep moving forward. They all have encouraged me to jump off the cliff and to follow my heart and passion for an industry that I love – wanting only for me to find a happiness and peace.
I would also like to give a special thanks to Peter Rookas for his friendship and support over the last four and a half years, especially last year when I was making the decision to leave my position as manager.
Then there is my lovely son in law Matt and Tiff, Julie, Julian, Tracey, Mark, Katrina, Tom, Hazel, Leia, Liz, Krystal, Heather, Ans, Mitch, Janeta, Anthony, my amazing clients and of course my beautiful turn back time girls – who have all been there in my corner the last months cheering me on, encouraging me and celebrating all the milestones as Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-being has come together and taken shape.
Lastly, I would like to say thank you to the very best friends a girl could ask for, Nettie, Jo and Sean. They have shared every moment with me the last few months, the good, the bad and the ugly and believe me there have been some moments. They have loved me, supported me, given me pep talks and the self-belief that I could make my dreams a reality. They have helped to fill the void of not having Paul here with me to share the journey and I am so grateful that they are part of my life. I love you guys so much.
When I think of Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-being – I think of dreams. For this business started as a dream that my husband Paul had for me many years ago when I first became a trainer. I remember when I received my certificate to become a Trainer, Paul gave me two caps and a box of business cards with Mother Earth Fitness written on – he told me he believed in me and that one day he wanted me to have my own business.
At the time I was so touched by his belief in me – I thought it was a nice dream but I didn’t think it would be possible for it to become a reality.
Life moved forward, I started working at The Works and then the accident happened and everything at once was changed. The dream was truly put to the side as I grieved and put all of my energy into surviving and rebuilding my life with my kids. The Works gym became my haven and I loved working for the members who had been such a support to me during such a difficult time in my life. Wanting to give back to them all the love and support they had given me.
As time moved on and as my view of the fitness industry started to mature into a more holistic approach to fitness – which now includes not only just fitness and exercise, but nutrition, motivation, mindset – all with the goal to assisting people to create positive life changes in order to improve the quality of their lives.
I slowly realised that managing a large impersonal gym was not the place for me.
Suddenly Paul’s dream came back into the picture but this time it became my dream. At the end of last year, I knew it was time to let go of the fear and jump off the cliff to start Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-being and to create a space where my dream and my vision for the type of service I wanted to provide could become a reality.
I decided to back my-self and as a result I have created this space to be able to provide a service to the community that fits in line with my life values.
You see – I believe life is a precious gift – it can change at any given moment and we can find ourselves with challenges, I have lived this and I know my belief in Strong Body Strong Mind and Strong Spirit has given me the tools to get through the challenges I have faced.
It is my goal that Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-being will be a warm personal space to support people to achieve their goals, and to live a fitter, healthier and happier life.
This will be done through fitness, motivation classes, nutrition, wellness talks and the development of strong bonds and a strong community of support.
Lastly, when I think of Shelley Myatt fitness and Well-being I like to think of community – the love of people and the love of community is especially important to me. I have a strong belief that bringing community together can create positive change. Especially when community has a similar goal or value set.
This is an important part of the uniqueness of this venue – I want others to know that not only will I be there to motivate you, I hope to foster a supportive environment where we all help each other to make the life changes important to us – through mutual appreciation of fitness, wellbeing and friendship.
You just never know what life has install for you.
Yesterday I let go of the only man I have ever loved and the person who has captured my heart so completely all of my life - even these last four years without him.
Six days ago I travelled across an ocean to Thailand to take the trip we always intended to do together to recommit our love for each other.
Yesterday I found the perfect moment in the most beautiful place surrounded by the ocean to write my last ever love letter to him. The hardest letter I have ever written - but one that was necessary to mend my broken heart.
I placed the letter in a bottle with the ring that has bound our love for so long. Then by the oceans edge I stood and reflected on a beautiful life I had shared with this man - a life and a love I cannot have anymore. Even though I have been trying my hardest to cling to it.
Then with all of my might I tossed Paul's letter out to sea where our love now forever sails until we reconnect.
Perhaps this moment was the most romantic gesture I have ever made for him - and I know in my heart he was standing there with me as I let him go.
Now my heart can begin to fully heal and I can completely embrace my life and all that comes my way.
Making changes to improve health, fitness and wellbeing
This week I find myself sitting at a desk in Phuket Cleanse, Thailand. I have come here to have a holiday but also to embrace and experience new ideas about health, fitness and wellbeing.
Something all trainers need to do - learn and grow and improve their own health, fitness and wellbeing. If we are not on top of our game, we cannot give the best we have to our clients, especially when it comes to assisting change.
This week I have also had the opportunity to meet likeminded people and trainers who share my passion for changing your mindset, health and fitness in order to live a happy and more active lifestyle.
It has been so exciting; I have been experiencing a whole new way of eating with juice cleansing and raw eating with fruit and vegetables (I have tasted and eaten some of the most incredible dishes!).
During the week, I have been fortunate to attend lectures based on topics extremely important to creating a permanent healthy lifestyle change. To name a few, nutrition, hormones, sleep health, mindfulness and meditation.
The week has been filled with lots of physical activity which included hikes that explored some of the most beautiful sights of Phuket. I have also participated in many varied exercise classes and met talented trainers who utilize different training methods and exercises to get the best results for the people they are working with. This I have loved so much and now feel deeply inspired about my life as a trainer and the positive changes I can incorporate with my clients and with my own life.
I have taken part in loaded movement, functional movement and strength training, TRX, med ball, speed and agility, stair and hill training, core, boxing and boot camp classes and last but not least, hot yoga and aerial yoga.
For me, one of the most special classes I attended was sunrise yoga on a pier overlooking a beautiful lake – it was incredible to watch a spectacular sunrise appear before my eyes whilst exercising.
As a trainer I have always believed that we need to look at health and fitness from a holistic perspective. We all have our own experiences in life and the way we need to approach making changes is by looking at a person as a whole in order to achieve the best results. This is what I loved about my stay at Phuket Cleanse; it provides many pathways for each individual to initiate the changes they are seeking.
For me as a Personal trainer, motivator and life columnist here in our Toowoomba community, this fits in line with how I see a person’s journey to be when endeavouring to make change in their life, especially with their health, fitness and well-being.
Change doesn’t have to be big – it only has to start with small simple steps that continue to progress you forward with your goals and this is my job - to provide you all with the tools to help you on your way to a healthier, fitter and happier life.
This experience has provided me with clarity around my recent decision to leave my gym managing position and to create Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-being studio which I am extremely excited about!
Health and fitness is a very personal experience and my goal is to tailor to your individual needs so you have the best opportunity to live your life to the fullest!
“Life is the greatest journey you will ever be on”
Be the change you wish to see in the world
Wednesday saw my family and I down at the White Ribbon breakfast, always an important day in our community as it is when we all stand together to say no to violence in our community.
It is also close to my families heart as it is the day that 'the Paul Myatt award' is given to a member of the community who has shown the same commitment and passion to this issue in their lives as Paul.
Each year, the recipient of Paul"s award has inspired me with stories, their dedication, their passion to making a change in our community especially when it comes to saying no to violence.
This year the award was extra special for the kids and I as the recipient was a family friend, who knew Paul, but had also been a support and friend to my family over the last few years. I also have the privilege to kick his butt into fitness each week in the gym.
Peter Rookas was a wonderful choice for the award this year; he is a role model to our community, a loving husband and father, and a man who takes every opportunity to never be silent about violence.
My family and I are so grateful that Paul is remembered each year in our community - my children and I remember his special qualities that inspired and changed our lives every day, but for us to have the opportunity to do this at the White Ribbon event each year - is truly a special gift given by the Toowoomba community to us.
Whispering words of encouragement
Paul always encouraged me to reach for my dreams and whenever those dreams felt impossible or I was struggling - he would always whisper to me 'you've got this Shel' or 'I believe in you'.
Whenever he said this to me suddenly the world changed and I could do anything and I was super Shelley. I guess that is the beauty of partnership.
When Paul and Imogen died and I was left to try and reassemble our broken lives again in grief - the very thought of it was overwhelming, every day was a struggle, but I was determined to show my children a way forward. I wanted to be their strength, their rock.
Each day was a huge step and without Paul there to whisper his words of encouragement - I had to learn to whisper to myself.
But most of all I had to learn to listen to my whisper.
How to take the steps towards change for a better life.
The last few years have been enormous for me and my family, losing my husband and daughter in the car accident has completely changed my life forever and I have worked hard to build a new life and move forward with my family – always taking the time to be grateful for what I do have in my life.
But this change was not planned and it was forced out of the blue on my family; we had no choice but to quickly find ways to adapt and to continue to live. Not an easy task and some days have been harder than others but we are slowly getting there and life is moving forward.
Recently I have been starting to think about making some new changes in my life, which is scary and exciting all at the same time – but these changes are ones that I want to make for myself for some time in order to continue and move forward with my life and hopefully reach find a new way to grow and be happy.
Change can be incredible difficult to make even when you know that it can have such a positive impact on your life – there are so many emotions that we feel around change, fear, anxiety, excitement – in fact it can feel like a roller coaster ride as we weigh up the pros and cons of making any life change.
In fact I’ve been sitting at the cliff edge for such a long time ready to take a giant leap for change but something keeps holding me back and now I realise it is me.
Feeling this way has me think about how many people also feel when they are on the edge of making health and fitness changes no matter how small or large the change is – making a change in your health and fitness is life changing and can produce a wide range of feeling and emotions around it. This is why we spend so much time and energy thinking about it, planning it and waiting for the right conditions to arise to make the move forward into a better lifestyle with exercise.
For so many people starting to exercise and make nutritional changes can be so overwhelming especially if you have never done it before or you have had a break for a number of years. Often we can lose confidence in our bodies, fear injury, fear judgement from others, failure and for some fear of success.
Here are some steps to making change:
Steps to cultivating a belief that anything is possible:
This week I say let’s jump off the cliff and start to take the steps towards change for the better especially with our health and fitness goals - we can take small steps but we just need to keep moving forward to change for a better life.
‘So take a walk around the block, walk up the stairs instead of the elevator, grab the kids and head to the park in the afternoon and have a game of cricket or even join that gym you have been talking about for so long’
A little something I put up on face-book in 2014:
It has been wonderful to recently read others gratitude on Facebook, something that I have attempted to practice in my life - especially in the last 2 1/2 years when so much that I loved was taken away and changed and I have needed to remind myself of all that I am grateful for.
It has not always been easy, and there have been days that have been bleak to say the least. But there have always been three gratitude's that are always present each day, that have given me strength and a reason to keep going even when my grief has been all consuming.
Reach out to someone you love and take a moment to care.
Today is are you Ok day - for many of us we get so busy with our daily lives that we sometimes don't take the time to ask the people around us if they are Ok.
Over the past few years I have watched my daughter Emily struggle with the grief of losing her father and sister - this on going grief has manifested as an anxiety disorder and terrible depression. While on the outside in her daily life with study and work - she appears to be coping with the circumstances of her life, it has been a very different story for her at home and so heart breaking as a mother to watch her suffer.
I am so proud of Emily today for reaching out and sharing her story and feelings about the reality of what she has been experiencing. It takes courage and I know that is a incredible strength that Emily does have - but by her reaching out it may help someone else to open up about their silent pain to someone they love.
Take the time to ask the question as the person nearest to you may really appreciate that you took a moment to care and you never know it could change their life.
Are you OK? For the last 3.5 years I have been living with a mental illness. My depression and anxiety manifested itself from my grief of losing my Dad and sister & is something I think will never go away.
I haven't shared this with many people. And it Honestly took me nearly 3 years to even accept the fact that I suffered from this. Living with depression and anxiety is difficult. Some days you don't even want to get out of bed, but you have to. I often feel numb, fatigued, worried, it magnifies my stress levels. I will use all my energy just getting through my day. My confidence is sometimes next to nothing. I feel worthless. I get really angry and iritable. Mostly angry that I feel this way. I struggle to go to group events because I "don't feel up to it". I've lost friends and extended family because they didn't understand.
Sometimes I am lucky (with the help of medication) my illness will disappear & I feel like my old self again. But to be honest, it's hard to tell how long this will last. Usually until the next birthday we have to celebrate (or Father's Day). I have tried incredibly hard to hide all of this. To pretend that I am OK. But there is not another appropriate day then are you okay day to share this.
Remember that many people are fighting a battle you know nothing about. Take the time to see how they're going. I know that without my incredible family & close friends- I would not be sitting here writing this post today.
Shelley Myatt is the owner and operator of Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-Being, Columnist, Life Coach & Motivational Speaker based in Toowoomba, Qld.