But one thing I have found as a Mum is that it is important to also take the time to care of ourselve
Being a Mum has been one of the most amazing experiences of my life and I value it with all my heart, having my children I have always valued it as a special gift. Especially after having experienced the loss of two children in my life. Knowing how precious life is makes me treasure motherhood more than ever and I know that I’m not the only mother to feel this way.
Over the years us Mum’s devote a great deal of energy into providing and looking after our children, it is a role we take seriously as we want to make sure our children are happy and have the best opportunities to succeed in life. Sometimes on the road of motherhood we tend to forget about ourselves, we are forever putting other people’s needs first, our children, partners and extended family.
But one thing I have found as a Mum is that it is important to also take the time to care of ourselves, especially when it comes to our health and fitness.
As staying in shape physically has so many benefits.
1. Being a healthy and fit mum allows you to keep up with the physical demands of motherhood, not only when they are little, but also with all the running around us Mother’s do with school run’s and their various after school activities.
2. A strong healthy body helps us Mums to stay mentally focussed to cope with the emotional roller coaster of motherhood and the various issues come up as our children learn to grow socially, academically and physically.
3. Exercising can also provide a physical realise and time out from parenting and the other relationships in your life, it gives you some escape time when you exercise.
4. Exercise is a great way for Mums to form friendships especially if you join an exercise group or class.
5. Exercise can provide positive role modelling for our children which will lead to the creating healthy fitness patterns as they become older and eventually become adults.
6. It also can be a lot of fun, and it provides release those feel good hormones that put you in a good mood long after the workout. So when you get home to your family you will be super happy, energetic and ready for family time.
This Mother’s Day while you’re enjoying the special attention of your family and being pampered, take the time to set some new positive health and fitness goals to keep you in tip top shape for motherhood. After all, it is the most important job in the world and you deserve to enjoy it!
Learn techniques for strengthening and protecting the pelvic floor during exercise.
Each week I talk to you all about staying fit and healthy, I try my best to motivate you all into taking steps to look after your entire body both inside and out. This includes our nutrition choices and the way that we exercise.
We all come from different life experiences which can often take its toll on the conditioning of the body. Over a lifetime of living, our body can start to develop imbalances, weakness and injuries and we often find the things we could do when we were younger we no longer can push ourselves the same way.
This by no means should be the reason to give up on exercise and your fitness goals. In fact, it can be used as the motivation to make some positive changes.
What it does mean is that we need to become more aware, recognise our limitations and learn to listen to what our bodies can and can’t do.
There are so many options for better fitness and health - it is a matter of finding the right way to exercise so that you improve and make progress with your goals and not hinder the results you are looking for.
Talking with your doctor, physiotherapist, and exercise professional may be the best way to start to explore options, especially if you have a health, medical condition or an ongoing injury.
One of the most common issues I find for women, after child birth and as we age, is pelvic floor weakness (men can also have pelvic floor weakness after prostrate surgery). It is one of those sensitive topics that can be difficult to bring up and discuss, but it is extremely important to find the right ways to exercise if you are experiencing pelvic floor weakness.
Some exercises put increased downward pressure on the pelvic floor, which can weaken the muscles and connective tissues these – especially with repetition and over time. A weak or damaged pelvic floor can contribute to disorders like incontinence and pelvic organ prolapse, so making sure it is not strained during exercise is important.
Moderate exercise and being healthy is beneficial for the pelvic floor, but you need to be aware of the risks and learn techniques for strengthening and protecting the pelvic floor during exercise.
Here are some examples of ways you can help take care of your pelvic floor:
Remember ‘Rome was not built in a day’ – so make sure you start off slowly and build your strength and fitness over time. It is better to set up the correct exercise routine for your body, one that considers your health, conditioning and end goal - then you can enjoy the results!
Sometimes life takes us on journeys that we never imagine we would ever travel.
Several weeks ago I sat in a room and was shown a photo of a strip of road with an X to mark the spot of the accident that changed my life and the spot where my beautiful daughter lost her life.
That moment rocked me as I had never seen or been near the accident. It has been the one moment in time I have never wanted or been able to face - I think I have been so frightened of the horror that my family went through on that day.
Also the kids and I have only had the energy to be dealing with the overwhelming grief and just trying to live and survive.
Anyway, since seeing the photo of the accident I have felt this strong need to finally travel to the where my families life changed and to especially see the place where Jimmy lost her life. A mother should know - but it has not been until now that I have had the strength to take that journey.
On Sunday morning I did this trip and I did this alone - it was hardest road trip I have ever taken and my heart ached for Imogen all of the way. I stood by the side of the road and finally thought of all that my family must of experienced in that moment - not just Imogen and Paul but Annabel and Elye - these four people are my heroes - the most amazing people I have ever known.
I also cried a river of tears for Imogen - you see grieving for two is never easy and expressing and dealing with my grief for Paul has been easier than facing the raw edge of a mothers grief for her child.
A mothers bond is strong and intense and it is unbreakable.
When the moment to go arrived I left the most beautiful bunch of flowers for her by the side of the road - a gift from me to her and the most important bunch of flowers I will ever give - these flowers where filled with all of the love I that I carry for her and always will.
I share this story with you as I want people to understand the journey of grief - but also to remember to love the people around you. They are a gift in your life and should never be taken for granted.
Today remember to love.
Shelley Myatt is the owner and operator of Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-Being, Columnist, Life Coach & Motivational Speaker based in Toowoomba, Qld.