'Your so called enemies are merely individuals who are placed on your path as a way of teaching you valuable lessons. You send these people love, not hate, and positive energy is returned to you'
We all have encountered difficult people in our lives - at work, with friends or even family. People that can make you question the very fabric of our beliefs and values.
In those moments always stay true to who you are, stay loving, stay kind and maintain your integrity.
A little something I put up on face-book in 2014:
It has been wonderful to recently read others gratitude on Facebook, something that I have attempted to practice in my life - especially in the last 2 1/2 years when so much that I loved was taken away and changed and I have needed to remind myself of all that I am grateful for.
It has not always been easy, and there have been days that have been bleak to say the least. But there have always been three gratitude's that are always present each day, that have given me strength and a reason to keep going even when my grief has been all consuming.
GET MOTIVATED AGAIN BY CHANGING YOUR LIFESTYLE, SETTING NEW GOALS AND VISUALISING THE NEW YOU.
As men and women we all contemplate creating the perfect image of what we would like to be - this is often the product of the images we see in the media through magazines, television and the movies.
These body images are unbelievable and not a reflection of realistic goals and are quite impossible to achieve as we are all different ages, shapes, and sizes and have very different lifestyles.
My goal this week is to motivate you into setting goals, visualising the new you and starting to make changes.
Step 1. Start living like a fit, healthy person today if you want to become one - even if you feel there is something holding you back, like weight loss, injury, and finances. Start to focus on the small things you can do. Eat healthy, start walking, reinforce positive speak, buy a new exercise outfit. Once you start you will soon find yourself transforming before you know it.
Step 2. Get out of you comfort zone. To get your body to change you need to do things your body is not used to - this could mean trying new things and challenging yourself. Not an easy step to do and we all like to stick with easy, but easy will not give you the results you are looking for. Try a boot camp, a new class, get a weight program, use a personal trainer - the choices and variety of different exercises are endless.
Step 3. Fuel your body to be fabulous. The key to getting your metabolism kickstarted is to fuel your body with healthy foods throughout the day, eating fresh foods and avoiding processed ones which our bodies struggle to cope with.
Step 4. Train hard or go home - always give 100% effort to your exercise. If you don't feel like you have exercised or it was way too easy then you most likely haven't done enough to produce results and kickstart your body.
Step 5. Get hooked on feeling fit and not the number on the scales. Be your own inspiration and use feeling fit and healthy as your measuring tool for change and not the dreaded scales. So many times I see men and women lose interest when the scales don't go down immediately. Change always takes time. Focus on your health, how you feel, how your movement and flexibility improve, and in no time our body will start to transform inside and out.
Step 6. Put an end to body bashing, and start to celebrate your strengths and the achievement you make even if they feel small at first. Over time the changes will increase and become rewarding.
Step 7. Develop strategies. Planning and good organisation and consistency around nutrition and exercise are the keys to creating success.
Step 8. Most importantly - attitude is everything. Anything is possible with determination and a positive attitude.
Sometimes that isn't an easy thing when we are dealing with work commitments and life. I understand this as I am a mum and work full-time.
That's where personal trainers like me are perfect to use to kick start and motivate.
REMEMBER - IF YOU DON'T LIKE SOMETHING, CHANGE IT, IF YOU CAN'T CHANGE IT, CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE.
Four super fun outdoor activities to get in shape for Summer
Now that spring is here and we've said goodbye to the cold winter, we can finally leave the winter blues behind and get ready to embrace the outdoors again with friends and family.
Most of us spend a lot of time indoors throughout the winter months and, by the time September arrives, we are more than ready to get active.
I often cannot wait to head outside and embrace all that our wonderful Australian outdoors has to offer.There are so many activities we can do outside that are immensely social and fun, ranging from picnics and cricket games in the park to volleyball at the beach on holiday. I believe that any activity that involves movement is exercise.
Sometimes we don't even realise we are getting fit while we do it, as we are having way too much fun to think of it as a workout. I can almost hear you saying that this is your kind of exercise and I want you to be thinking that this spring and summer should be the time to be active, to start moving, but most of all to be celebrating and enjoying life.
For all of us, it will mean different things. Personally I love to train in the gym but, when the summertime comes, I head to the beach and go running as I love the water and the calm I feel as I run near it.
I would like to look at four super fun outdoor activities that will build you fitness on many different levels and will help you get in shape for the summer months ahead:
So let's start thinking about heading outside for some fun and fitness and let's even think about stepping out of our box and trying something new to kick off spring.
This is the perfect time to feel motivated and to live life to the fullest!
I was recently thinking about all that I have been through over the last few years with the death of my husband and daughter in a car accident. My life has been so challenging at times and there have been moments where I have wanted to just give up and throw in the towel, but my remaining children have always been my inspiration each day and my reason to keep going. I also know that my passion for fitness and health and my own personal commitment to my own fitness and health has given me strength at times I have needed it most, especially on those days when everything really did seem all too much.
Thinking about this has made me look at people who are experiencing depression and how exercise can play an important part to in helping to deal with some of the major symptoms of depression.
Depression for some can be long-lasting and very debilitating, it can change appetite, cause a loss of energy, feelings of helplessness, and can even produce significant anxiety as well.
But one route to recovery may start with some sneakers – it has been shown that consistent exercise can have significant benefits for treating depression and anxiety, it can help to boost mood, combat feelings of gloom, and prepare the brain to better handle stress.
I have felt the benefit of this first hand, as running and working out have been one of the ways I have coped with the stress of grief and the anxiety of rebuilding my life with my remaining children. When all has felt too much I would put on my running shoes on and hit the streets, just to release the anxiety of all I was going through and to work out how I was going to get through the next day and believe me I did find it extremely helpful and always felt much better after a run.
How does exercise help with depression:
Many health professionals give regular exercise a gold star for helping to prevent disease, keeping off excess weight. Another benefit is that the different types of physical activity can lessen depressive symptoms. There have been many studies over the years that have shown that people who regularly exercise show fewer symptoms of anxiety and depression then people who do not exercise.
Aerobic exercise such as walking, jogging, swimming or cycling can be a good way to start. Strength training with weights can also have positive effects. If you need a push as starting to exercise can be extremely difficult if you are experiencing depression then try personal training session.
But most of all it doesn’t matter what you are doing as long as you are moving and doing something. Start small, feel the achievement and build to something bigger.
And remember from little things big things can grow and life can change again for the better – I know this as I have been living this each day.
Reach out to someone you love and take a moment to care.
Today is are you Ok day - for many of us we get so busy with our daily lives that we sometimes don't take the time to ask the people around us if they are Ok.
Over the past few years I have watched my daughter Emily struggle with the grief of losing her father and sister - this on going grief has manifested as an anxiety disorder and terrible depression. While on the outside in her daily life with study and work - she appears to be coping with the circumstances of her life, it has been a very different story for her at home and so heart breaking as a mother to watch her suffer.
I am so proud of Emily today for reaching out and sharing her story and feelings about the reality of what she has been experiencing. It takes courage and I know that is a incredible strength that Emily does have - but by her reaching out it may help someone else to open up about their silent pain to someone they love.
Take the time to ask the question as the person nearest to you may really appreciate that you took a moment to care and you never know it could change their life.
Are you OK? For the last 3.5 years I have been living with a mental illness. My depression and anxiety manifested itself from my grief of losing my Dad and sister & is something I think will never go away.
I haven't shared this with many people. And it Honestly took me nearly 3 years to even accept the fact that I suffered from this. Living with depression and anxiety is difficult. Some days you don't even want to get out of bed, but you have to. I often feel numb, fatigued, worried, it magnifies my stress levels. I will use all my energy just getting through my day. My confidence is sometimes next to nothing. I feel worthless. I get really angry and iritable. Mostly angry that I feel this way. I struggle to go to group events because I "don't feel up to it". I've lost friends and extended family because they didn't understand.
Sometimes I am lucky (with the help of medication) my illness will disappear & I feel like my old self again. But to be honest, it's hard to tell how long this will last. Usually until the next birthday we have to celebrate (or Father's Day). I have tried incredibly hard to hide all of this. To pretend that I am OK. But there is not another appropriate day then are you okay day to share this.
Remember that many people are fighting a battle you know nothing about. Take the time to see how they're going. I know that without my incredible family & close friends- I would not be sitting here writing this post today.
Sometimes life takes us on journeys that we never imagine we would ever travel.
Several weeks ago I sat in a room and was shown a photo of a strip of road with an X to mark the spot of the accident that changed my life and the spot where my beautiful daughter lost her life.
That moment rocked me as I had never seen or been near the accident. It has been the one moment in time I have never wanted or been able to face - I think I have been so frightened of the horror that my family went through on that day.
Also the kids and I have only had the energy to be dealing with the overwhelming grief and just trying to live and survive.
Anyway, since seeing the photo of the accident I have felt this strong need to finally travel to the where my families life changed and to especially see the place where Jimmy lost her life. A mother should know - but it has not been until now that I have had the strength to take that journey.
On Sunday morning I did this trip and I did this alone - it was hardest road trip I have ever taken and my heart ached for Imogen all of the way. I stood by the side of the road and finally thought of all that my family must of experienced in that moment - not just Imogen and Paul but Annabel and Elye - these four people are my heroes - the most amazing people I have ever known.
I also cried a river of tears for Imogen - you see grieving for two is never easy and expressing and dealing with my grief for Paul has been easier than facing the raw edge of a mothers grief for her child.
A mothers bond is strong and intense and it is unbreakable.
When the moment to go arrived I left the most beautiful bunch of flowers for her by the side of the road - a gift from me to her and the most important bunch of flowers I will ever give - these flowers where filled with all of the love I that I carry for her and always will.
I share this story with you as I want people to understand the journey of grief - but also to remember to love the people around you. They are a gift in your life and should never be taken for granted.
Today remember to love.
Shelley Myatt is the owner and operator of Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-Being, Columnist, Life Coach & Motivational Speaker based in Toowoomba, Qld.