With my daughter getting married in December to her partner Matt - I thought I would put up and old getting ready for a wedding article I wrote this time last year. Emily getting married is such a special event for my family, it is the first happy celebration for our family since the accident three and half years ago. As her mum I am so happy to see her life moving forward just as Paul and I had envisioned for our girl, a career in law, and home and special person for her to share her life with.
This week at the gym we are celebrating the wedding of two of our gym family members.
Over the past few months we have watched with excitement as our couple and their family prepares for their special day.
They have worked extremely hard to prepare and get in shape and with them as my inspiration and my love of romance I thought I would make "getting ready for your wedding day" the theme of this week's article.
Everyone wants their special day to be perfect. The bride and groom often spend many months organising the wedding, directing all their attention and thought into the most minute of details.
Often the bride and groom envision they are going to be "trim, taut, and terrific" for the wedding, but as an oversight they place very little emphasis on making the necessary dietary and fitness changes until the very last stages of wedding preparation.
This results in insufficient time for the bride and groom to achieve what they hoped.
SOME TIPS TO THINK ABOUT:
* Make your goals realistic and achievable.
* Don't leave it until the last minute to star exercising and dieting. Start at least six months in advance of the wedding date. This will not only give you plenty of time to get physically ready for the big day, but will also help you cope mentally with the added stress created when planning an event of such magnitude.
* Focus on both nutrition and exercise to achieve your goals. By incorporating both you will achieve your goals for the wedding at a much quicker rate.
* Personal training is a perfect option to create body transformation for a wedding. Trainers are able to tailor personalised training session specific to your individual goals and provide the constant encouragement and motivation to stay on track.
* Consider group training for the entire wedding party - not only will it make it more cost-effective, as most gyms or trainers will offer a cheaper group training rate, it is also a fun way for the entire wedding party to get in shape and look fabulous for the event. It also provides the opportunity for the wedding party to bond and create added memories leading up to the big day.
* Weddings happen all year round but spring is always considered to be the most popular season for romance, commitment and for wedding celebrations, and with spring just around the corner, now is the perfect time of the year to start getting in shape for that special day... and someone.
I know I always enjoy helping client's to achieve their wedding goals.
Some cute pics of the Emily and Matt
IF YOU AIM TOO HIGH AND PUSH TOO HARD TOO SOON, YOU CAN BURN OUT QUICKLY
Making a change in your health and fitness can be a huge life event.
For many of us we have spent a great deal of time thinking, contemplating, setting and planning our goals.
The lead up to change can often be as big as embarking on the journey.
Quite often motivation can be at a peak when embarking on a new fitness routine - you can feel so energised that you leap into a new exercise routine with zest and vigour, pushing yourself beyond your limits in an attempt to attain your goals and results as quickly as possible.
Sometimes your enthusiasm can set you up for failure with placing unrealistic expectations on yourself, leaving you in danger of over-training, which can, over the long term, delay results.
It takes four weeks for you to see results and eight weeks for others to start to notice.
Also you may find overtraining with impact on your enjoyment of exercise - becoming a chore rather than something fun to get you fit and healthy.
This is quite often when it becomes easy to give up on your goals.
It can even make it harder to rekindle your enthusiasm down the track when you want to kickstart things again.
SIGNS OF OVEERTRAINING
We all have the odd day when we feel unenthused about exercise but if you are continuously unmotivated, feeling sluggish and making excuses not to train, than you could be experiencing overtraining and need to take some time to allow your body to recover.
It is normal for the body to get sore after training but if the soreness continues for more than three days this is a sign you have pushed yourself too far.
If you are experiencing chronic soreness from exercise that will not disappear then it is time to rest, so take a few days off and see how your body responds.
Do this if:
* You stop seeing any results.
* You're sick more often.
Overtraining can compromise the immune system and leave you more vulnerable to illness.
there are a few simple tips to follow to avoid overtraining and to keep you moving forward with your goals.
* Sleep well.
* Take in proper nutrition to fuel your body correctly.
* Try to avoid extra stress.
* Only train enough to gain the results you are looking for.
* Get a professional program developed for you from a trainer that will put measured rest between sets and reps and add in recovery days.
* Remember to rest between heavy lifting sessions as much as possible to allow the body to fully recover.
* It is also helpful to have a lighter training week.
* Do activities that encourage recovery - yoga, swimming, walking or including rest days in between workouts.
Now that you understand the pitfalls of overtraining you can take steps to make sure you do not burn out and keep your motivation at a high, making it easier to achieve your goals.
Especially with spring around the corner, now is the perfect time to work out!
Get by with a little help from friends
HAVING A WORKOUT BUDDY WILL KEEP YOU MOTIVATED IN GOOD TIMES AND BAD
We all have special friends in our lives that we rely on and turn to when we need a little extra support and encouragement in life - I know I have quite a number of friends who have been there when I have needed them the most. Health and fitness has been a part of my life for many years and training has been one of the ways I have coped with difficulties, especially in the past few years.
In the early days after the car accident that my husband and daughter passed away in, my motivation was extremely low. The impact of the grief was intense and affected my energy levels and my desire to do any form of exercise.
This is where the value of my wonderful friends came in - everyone around me knew how important my fitness was to me and how it was helping me to cope with all the changes going on in my life. But my friends could also see I was struggling to maintain a consistent routine. They would ring me up, harass and hound me to head to the gym, go for a run or to do a little boxing session. Some days I would be dragging the chain, but you know, once I was exercising with these amazing friends, I would suddenly forget for a moment what I was going through, and would feel so much better afterwards.
I guess I am sharing my story a little with you this week, as I wanted you to see how beneficial a workout buddy can be, especially when you are experiencing a low ebb in life.
Setting goals and working towards outcomes with others can keep you on track but also there are so many other benefits of having a workout buddy:
But most of all the fun, the laughter you will experience along the way, will override the times you are struggling and lacking motivation.
My friends have always been there for me and I am always grateful for their friendship and support at a time in my life when I needed it the most. I no longer need them to harass me anymore to workout, my motivation is back strong, but I still love working out with them.
I love the song quote -"I get by with a little help from my friends" - it rings true to me in so many ways in my life and I hope you can make it ring true for you!
You do something kind for a stranger and make their day. Perhaps you feed someone's parking meter, leave flowers on someone's doorstep, or donate anonymously to a charity.
This is one of my my fave things to do. I love to surprise people with little act of kindness all the time, it is never too much to reach out to someone when they need a helping hand.
When Paul and Imogen died my family were the recipients of so many beautiful acts of kindness, it was so special to me,the love and generosity of so many is what held my family together through the first twelve months.
Not a day does not pass by where I do not think about all of these people who reached out to my family and some of these people I will never know. This experience has made me realise the power and the magic of community and it also has inspired me to be a person who lives my life reaching out to others in what ever way I can.
One of my most favourite acts of kindness I like to do is to surprise someone with a bunch flowers every week - it makes me so happy when I see their faces light up with a smile. There have been times when the person receiving the flowers have especially needed a little sunshine in their life.
Thought I would share some of pictures from the 'Peak to Park' and 'Body Combat Class' - two fundraisers my amazing work mates and gym community did for my family just after the accident. They also did a race day a few months later to send my family on a holiday to get through our first Christmas without Paul and Imogen.
Beautiful people with the biggest hearts - I love them dearly and will never forget.
Thank you xxx
WORK ON GETTING YOUR SUMMER BODY IN WINTE
This morning when I woke up at 4.30am to get ready for work, I noticed a sudden change in the weather which made me realise winter is almost upon us. This colder change can affect our enthusiasm for our fitness and health goals. I always find the winter months the most difficult for maintaining motivation.
In order to combat this, I will often set some new goals and develop strategies like organising workout partners as a way to keep committed to my health and fitness.
My message for this issue is not to wait until you go off track but to start planning how you are going to keep your momentum going, now we are moving into a colder, more challenging season.
By taking steps now, you can fool-proof the next few months so that when spring hits you will be able to enjoy life to the max; that way when opportunities come your way you will be ready and fit to embrace them and seize the day.
So this year, instead of curling up on the couch and hibernating under the covers, why not take stock of past habits that have been holding you back and stick with the health and fitness plan?
I always like to say your summer body is made in winter during the colder months.
FOUR EASY TIPS TO KEEP MOTIVATED:
For me, I love being a fit and healthy mum and enjoy being able to do things with my children, especially in the warmer months when I can head outdoors.
Staying on top of my health even when it feels tough is worth it as life is way too short to let it pass us by.
Be grateful everyday
Practicing gratitude in my life since the accident has been extremely important to me - when I was in the car traveling down to the hospital, knowing that Imogen was gone and feeling in my heart that I was about to say goodbye to Paul - I was grateful that I still had Annabel and Elye and that they had survived uninjured - a gift given to me in amongst my grief and pain. I have reminded myself to be grateful every day since even in my darkest moments of grief.
Today I am grateful for my life, my children, mum and dad, Nettie and all of my wonderful friends.
My health, my home, my work.
For love, laughter, exercise, flowers, music and dancing
Now that is a truck load lot of gratitude :-)
Shelley Myatt is the owner and operator of Shelley Myatt Fitness and Well-Being, Columnist, Life Coach & Motivational Speaker based in Toowoomba, Qld.